A&F 174: People Pleasing & Perfectionism

When you were born, you weren’t a people pleaser. Yet many people label still themselves that way as if that's who they are instead of something they've done (even though it causes undue suffering). 

Why? 

Because learning to be a people pleaser usually helps you cope with a traumatic experience that could date back to your early childhood years. 

For example, one of the folks who came to a Freedom Specialist retreat was a self-admitted people pleaser with a compulsive porn habit. He had even contemplated suicide because of his inability to quit. After digging, I realized he still carried the trauma of his friend committing suicide nearly a decade before he stepped foot in the retreat.

But by working with his body—instead of his thoughts—he discovered a new way to act. The result? His trauma disappeared and he’s never been happier. 

In this episode, you’ll discover how to use your body to quiet your nastiest negative thoughts and unlock more joy than you even thought possible. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include

• The “never out of the blue” mindset tweak for better understanding and erasing your addictive tendencies (2:50) 
• How to uncover if a loved one has suicidal thoughts by zeroing in to the language they use (5:42) 
• Why your brain acts like a QR code (and how this fact creates untold amounts of suffering in your life) (12:40) 
• The “Different Body” secret for instantly obliterating your negative and triggering thoughts (13:56) 
• A 3-second trick for curbing anger whenever it rears its ugly head (14:49) 
• Why simply praying can evaporate your worst thoughts and feelings (even if you don’t have a religious bone in your body) (19:56) 
• The weird root cause of aging, midlife crises, and divorce (and how to prevent it in your life) (23:07) 

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course. 

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the ‘F’ Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that’s making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.